Understanding Anxiety: The ABCs

Denton has two universities and one community college. Classes started this week, and you can smell the anxiety in the air. Some students are worried because they finally have to take that class they’ve been putting off. Others got “that” professor. Some got “the talk” from their parents over the break and need to pull their grades up OR ELSE! It seems like the perfect time to focus on some anxiety-reducing techniques. While I love to study the neurochemistry of various disorders, including anxiety, I realize that most other people don’t. In fact, the mere thought of chemistry provokes anxiety! Or does it?

Today we’ll focus on the behavioral aspects of anxiety. Let’s start with Albert Ellis’ ABC Model, one of the models that influenced the development of cognitive behavioral therapy.

Think of a time when you have been anxious. What caused it? School, work, a breakup, finances? Maybe even something specific, like worrying about annoying a friend, or stumbling over your words during a presentation. We often perceive that certain events cause anxiety, but they don’t. Instead, it’s our negative perception of the actual or anticipated event that causes our anxiety. This is the fundamental premise of Albert Ellis’ ABC Model.

Let’s begin by defining some terms. “ABC” stands for:

A-Activating event (a negative event)
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B-our Belief about the event
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C-the Consequence (our response to our beliefs)

The idea behind the model is that a negative event doesn’t cause our stress or anxiety; our BELIEF about the event does.

Let’s use a common example: school is starting, and you feel unprepared:
A: School is starting
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B: “I’m not ready. What if I don’t do well? People are going to think I’m stupid. My parents will kill me.”
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C: Anxiety. Unable to focus, trouble sleeping, loss of ambition, fear of even starting or, conversely, not giving yourself a break from studying.

While we are focusing on anxiety today, Ellis’ model is relevant for all sorts of scenarios and responses, not just anxiety. Maybe your go-to emotional reaction is anger, depression, embarrassment, disgust, fear, or a mixture of several of these! The model is still relevant. That being said, looking at the model, what caused your anxiety? School will start no matter what, but your BELIEF is what shapes your reaction to that event.

The takeaway is, the next time you’re experiencing a behavioral consequence, don’t think about or blame the activating event. That may or may not be something you can change, but it did not cause your emotional response. Instead, think of what you can change: your beliefs about and reaction to that event. Recognize when your beliefs are irrational, unhelpful, and problematic, and how they may be creating an extreme consequence.

Let’s look at another common event that provokes anxiety in many: needles. Not all people are afraid of needles. Yet for some, the sight or even thought of a needle induces severe anxiety or even full-blown panic, while others don’t bat an eye as they watch the needle being stuck into their arm. While there are certain objects or situations that humans do appear primed to respond to negatively (Jung’s theory on the collective unconscious describes this in more detail), clearly, needles in and of themselves do not cause anxiety, or all of us would respond to them in the same way. If you are afraid of needles, it is your belief about the needle and its possible consequences that triggers your response, not the needle itself. Let’s map it out:

A: You need a shot or to have blood drawn.
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B: Fill in your personal thoughts about the event here.
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C: Anxiety. Fill in your specific reactions here. For example, hyperventilating, panicking, becoming oppositional or just plain combative with medical personnel, avoiding medical care altogether, etc.

Next week, we will discuss the D (dispute) and E (effect of challenging/defeating your belief) of this model, and how you can shape and change your beliefs into something more positive. In the meantime, here’s an exercise for you to try:

The next time you’re experiencing anxiety, map it out, and write your ABCs, like the school and needles examples above! It may be helpful to work backward from C to A. Consider starting a journal and mapping out your ABCs every time you feel anxious. Build an awareness of how you think, try to find patterns, and think about why you’re having the beliefs that cause your consequences.

Happy mapping!

This blog is not designed to diagnose, treat, or prevent illnesses or trauma, and Dr. Emick is not responsible for your use of this educational material or its consequences. Furthermore, reading this blog does not create a doctor-patient relationship. The information contained within this blog is not intended to dictate what constitutes reasonable, appropriate, or best care for any given physical or behavioral health issue, nor does it take into account the unique circumstances that define the health issues of the reader. If you have questions about the diagnosis, treatment, or prevention of a condition or illness, you should consult your personal health care professional. As always, consult with your personal health care professional before beginning or changing any fitness or nutrition program to make sure that it is appropriate for your needs. Dr. Emick reserves the right to modify her positions on a subject based upon new research or data as it presents.

Practices of Emotionally Healthy People

Consistently engage in self-care physically, emotionally and spiritually;

Continue to grow and develop self-awareness;

Accept responsibility for their actions and the consequences;

Accept that others may not share their same ethics, morals or religious or personal convictions;

Practice gratitude;

Actively pursue their passions;

Find meaning in life, including in times of loss and trauma;

Connect with others and their surroundings;

Set and maintain appropriate boundaries, both for themselves and others;

Allow themselves to be angry but,

Consider situations from multiple angles and perspectives and

Carefully choose their words, responses and actions;

Apologize for their own misdoings;

Forgive others for their transgressions;

Accept failure as a part of life and use it to enhance their personal growth;

Ask for help when they need it.

Disclaimer: This blog is not designed to diagnose, treat, or prevent illnesses or trauma, and Dr. Emick is not responsible for your use of this educational material or its consequences. Furthermore, reading this blog does not create a doctor-patient relationship. The information contained within this blog is not intended to dictate what constitutes reasonable, appropriate, or best care for any given physical or behavioral health issue, nor does it take into account the unique circumstances that define the health issues of the reader. If you have questions about the diagnosis, treatment, or prevention of a condition or illness, you should consult your personal health care professional. As always, consult with your personal health care professional before beginning or changing any fitness or nutrition program to make sure that it is appropriate for your needs. Dr. Emick reserves the right to modify her positions on a subject based upon new research or data as it presents.

 

 

 

 

 

Creating a Balanced Life: Living in Love

Now that we’ve covered how to love, all the time, despite the circumstances, it’s time to end the year by focusing on living in love, both now and in the future. I know so many people who aspire to this but then find themselves judging others harshly and immediately if they are in any way different from themselves. This is often so ingrained it can be very difficult to overcome. While you have some time off over the holidays, how about reading Teachings on Love by Thích Nhất Hạnh?

As described by Brian Bruya, Ph.D., “For venerated Vietnamese Zen master Thích Nhất Hạnh, love is more than an emotion. Drawing on millennia of Buddhist wisdom and his own therapeutic methods, Teachings on Love further develops his practical notion of interbeing in terms of love. If all things are interrelated, what could be more paramount to negotiating those relations than love? And more than just a way of relating, love is a way of living: ‘Love by the way you walk, the way you sit, the way you eat.’ Nhat Hanh supports his practical advice with numerous verses for enhancing mindfulness, prostrations for expressing reverence, and succinct formulas, such as the Five Awarenesses and the Five Mindfulness Trainings. The fifth mindfulness training exemplifies the broad scope of Nhất Hạnh love: ‘Aware of the suffering caused by unmindful consumption, I am committed to cultivating good health, both physical and mental, for myself, my family, and my society by practicing mindful eating, drinking, and consuming.’ Thích Nhất Hạnh forever writes with reassuring warmth, from which readers may derive insight as well as comfort.”

Disclaimer: This blog is not designed to diagnose, treat, or prevent illnesses or trauma, and Dr. Emick is not responsible for your use of this educational material or its consequences. Furthermore, reading this blog does not create a doctor-patient relationship. The information contained within this blog is not intended to dictate what constitutes reasonable, appropriate, or best care for any given physical or behavioral health issue, nor does it take into account the unique circumstances that define the health issues of the reader. If you have questions about the diagnosis, treatment, or prevention of a condition or illness, you should consult your personal health care professional. As always, consult with your personal health care professional before beginning or changing any fitness or nutrition program to make sure that it is appropriate for your needs. Dr. Emick reserves the right to modify her positions on a subject based upon new research or data as it presents.

Creating a Balanced Life: Practicing Patience

Thanksgiving is next week and the holiday season is in full swing. Everywhere I go I see stressed looking people, road rage in the parking lots, exhausted parents yelling at their overtired children, bickering partners and so on. Are you one of them? If so, why? Take time to reflect upon this for a moment. Do you need to scale down your holiday plans? Reduce the number of events you attend or gifts you give? Does the mere thought of scaling back nearly send you over the edge? Especially during the holidays, I suggest doing the following on a daily basis:

  • Meditate or engage in deep breathing exercises
  • Get enough sleep
  • Exercise daily
  • Eat well
  • Enjoy yourself, your family, your partner

Still feel you’re pressed for time? Below are links to TED talks on practicing patience:

https://www.ted.com/talks/carl_honore_praises_slowness?referrer=playlist-talks_to_help_practice_patienc

https://www.ted.com/talks/pico_iyer_the_art_of_stillness?referrer=playlist-talks_to_help_practice_patienc

Ready to fully embrace the concept? I suggest you take time to read Peace Is Every Step: The Path of Mindfulness in Everyday Life by Thích Nhất Hạnh. As described by the publisher, “In the rush of modern life, we tend to lose touch with the peace that is available in each moment. World-renowned Zen master, spiritual leader, and author Thích Nhất Hạnh shows us how to make positive use of the very situations that usually pressure and antagonize us. For him a ringing telephone can be a signal to call us back to our true selves. Dirty dishes, red lights, and traffic jams are spiritual friends on the path to “mindfulness”—the process of keeping our consciousness alive to our present experience and reality. The most profound satisfactions, the deepest feelings of joy and completeness lie as close at hand as our next aware breath and the smile we can form right now.”

Enjoy the holidays!

Disclaimer: This blog is not designed to diagnose, treat, or prevent illnesses or trauma, and Dr. Emick is not responsible for your use of this educational material or its consequences. Furthermore, reading this blog does not create a doctor-patient relationship. The information contained within this blog is not intended to dictate what constitutes reasonable, appropriate, or best care for any given physical or behavioral health issue, nor does it take into account the unique circumstances that define the health issues of the reader. If you have questions about the diagnosis, treatment, or prevention of a condition or illness, you should consult your personal health care professional. As always, consult with your personal health care professional before beginning or changing any fitness or nutrition program to make sure that it is appropriate for your needs. Dr. Emick reserves the right to modify her positions on a subject based upon new research or data as it presents.

 

Creating a Balanced Life: Making Happiness a Habit

We’ve now reviewed how to manage your anger and fears, take care of yourself physically, emotionally and spiritually and nurture your relationships. Now it’s time to work on being happy. That’s right, you can choose to be happy, regardless of your situation. Most of us know that person who is always dissatisfied, always complaining about something, always critical of others. What to do if that person is you? Matthieu Ricard is a biochemist turned Buddhist monk. That’s right, yet another hard core scientist who believes in the power of the mind and its ability to transform. In 2004 he gave a TED talk entitled, The Habits of Happiness. Here is the link: https://www.ted.com/talks/matthieu_ricard_on_the_habits_of_happiness?referrer=playlist-talks_to_help_practice_patienc

Disclaimer: This blog is not designed to diagnose, treat, or prevent illnesses or trauma, and Dr. Emick is not responsible for your use of this educational material or its consequences. Furthermore, reading this blog does not create a doctor-patient relationship. The information contained within this blog is not intended to dictate what constitutes reasonable, appropriate, or best care for any given physical or behavioral health issue, nor does it take into account the unique circumstances that define the health issues of the reader. If you have questions about the diagnosis, treatment, or prevention of a condition or illness, you should consult your personal health care professional. As always, consult with your personal health care professional before beginning or changing any fitness or nutrition program to make sure that it is appropriate for your needs. Dr. Emick reserves the right to modify her positions on a subject based upon new research or data as it presents.

Creating a Balanced Life: Developing Emotional Intelligence

If you’ve been following this blog for any extended period of time, by now you should be developing a deeper sense of self. Now it’s time to consider yourself in relation to others. To do so requires emotional intelligence. So what, exactly, is emotional intelligence? As defined by dictionary.com, emotional intelligence is “the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one’s emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.” Emotional intelligence requires self-awareness, self -management, empathy and social skills. Ready to learn more? Dr. Daniel Goleman wrote the book Emotional Intelligence. I highly recommend that you read it as a first step. However, if you are pressed for time, below is a link to a Youtube video in which Dr. Goleman discusses his theories of emotional intelligence. He also has several other YouTube videos in which he discusses different components of emotional intelligence.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y7m9eNoB3NU

Now do we have your interest? Check out www.keystepmedia.com for more on this topic.

Disclaimer: This blog is not designed to diagnose, treat, or prevent illnesses or trauma, and Dr. Emick is not responsible for your use of this educational material or its consequences. Furthermore, reading this blog does not create a doctor-patient relationship. The information contained within this blog is not intended to dictate what constitutes reasonable, appropriate, or best care for any given physical or behavioral health issue, nor does it take into account the unique circumstances that define the health issues of the reader. If you have questions about the diagnosis, treatment, or prevention of a condition or illness, you should consult your personal health care professional. As always, consult with your personal health care professional before beginning or changing any fitness or nutrition program to make sure that it is appropriate for your needs. Dr. Emick reserves the right to modify her positions on a subject based upon new research or data as it presents.